You must know a few of these self-assured people! They have a straight back, a positive attitude, and a strong charisma. But where do they get their self-assurance?
Do you want to play their game? So keep reading for a Woman’s Guide to Confidence.
Self-belief and esteem
What is self-belief?
Self-confidence is simply belief in one’s own abilities. Your self-confidence (or lack thereof) is evident in your actions, body language, speech, and words.
Too little or too much confidence can cause issues.
Insecurity and anxiety arise from a lack of confidence. You avoid trying new things because you doubt your abilities, which can lead to a vicious cycle where you stop trying altogether and fall into a depression.
If you are overconfident in your abilities, you will headlong throw yourself into more than you can yawn over, and you will land hard and brutally. It’s possible you’re overconfident and don’t try. People may perceive you as arrogant if you are overconfident.
So it pays to be confident – but how?
Self-confidence is closely linked to self-esteem – do you value yourself as a human being? So, to improve your self-esteem, you must improve your self-esteem. How to improve self-esteem.
We’ve gathered helpful tips on how to boost your self-esteem.
Remember your assets
Recognize your uncertainties.
What does your inner voice say? Why do you feel like you’re not the best? What makes you self-conscious? It can be anything from pimples to regrets. So you can get rid of the things that make you feel unworthy and inferior, name them.
If you constantly tell yourself you’re stupid and inept, you’ll start believing it and acting accordingly. So, stop negative thoughts as soon as you notice them. You wouldn’t accept that your boyfriend or girlfriend talked to you like that, so why do you?
Keep in mind your achievements
Make a list of the ten best things you’ve done so far in your life. Maybe you aced an exam, ran with the most delicious hunk, changed someone’s life, or achieved a work goal. Write it down so you can remind yourself of your achievements. Make a list of your best qualities – are you generous, knowledgeable, or always happy? – and use it to boost your confidence.
Build Success Habits
It’s easier to find success if you know what you’re looking for! So, consider what is truly important to you and your life goals. Then set some affordable and achievable sub-goals that can eventually lead to your overall goal – and dive in, even if it’s intimidating.
Making mistakes is part of learning new things. See your mistakes as opportunities to learn, not as failures. When things go wrong, ask yourself why and how you can avoid it in the future, and then use the answers to move on.
Are your new initiatives going well? So remember to congratulate. You can reward yourself for a job well done with anything!
Top-level confidence swindle
Positive self-talk strengthens positive self-perception in your and others’ minds, and gives you the courage to move forward.
You can fool yourself into thinking you have self-confidence if you act confidently. So pretend to be the new, more confident you: Straighten your back, walk firmly, and smile! When you visualize your new, more confident self for your inner gaze, you reprogram your brain so it thinks it IS you.
Helping others is the easiest way to see that you’re actually making a difference. Give a helping hand or a kind word to your fellow humans; their gratitude will boost your confidence!
Keep your attitudes, principles, and preferences even if others disagree. Are you afraid of revealing your true self? So start with a harmless discussion with a friend and work your way up from there.
What do others think?
The most important thing in life is that YOU feel good about yourself! After all, you must remain alone for the rest of your life… Do not listen to their condemnation, but trust yourself (unless the whole world tells you that you’re insane!)
No one is perfect.
Everyone has felt insecure about themselves at some point. Just ask your friends for support! It’s normal because life has ups and downs. Reminding yourself that everyone else isn’t always beautiful, smart, and winning will make you more tolerant of yourself. In fact, it is your inner critic and perfectionism that speaks to you, and it is vital that you ignore it.